Yes, you might be too old to wear...

Yes, you might be too old to wear...

I believe most women have a fair amount of common sense. However, sometimes even the most wonderful woman can be lead astray by a style she thinks looks good on her (twenty years later). You know that woman I'm talking ab'out. She's over 40, yet still wearing short skirts that she (literally) wore in her twenties!!! It's obvious the short skirt is not a favorable look with her aging legs. Who wants to be the one to tell her that she looks horrible?


The truth is...she's too OLD to wear that style! Yes, in MissusSmartyPants' opinion clothing labels should have an"expiration date" on them so this "too old to wear it" dilemma would no longer occur.


There are plenty of young, hip, trendy styles that can make you appear OLDER. Yes this is very scary, but it is true you need to tread lightly with the trends when you are over forty!


Here are just a few of the "youthful" styles an older woman should totally AVOID:


Message tees. You know the tees that say things like "Your boyfriend thinks I'm HOT!" Wearing a message tee (or ass-vertising sweats) like this...screams desperate!!!

INSTEAD: Choose to wear a great quality cotton tee that you can dress up or down...with NO silly writing, LOL!

Overly Trendy Denims. You've seen these women before: a rocking-hard body and a face that looks over 60, or more. The overly trendy jeans that are ultra LOW rise, torn and/or embellished with rhinestones just aren't doing this "hot mama" justice!!!

INSTEAD: Choose a dark wash bootcut jean and you'll look fabulous and "on-trend" no matter your body size or shape. This style of jean is the best for helping slim and balance your proportions.

Sky-high heels. Too high or overly theatrical styled shoes can make you look silly--not stylish! With these shoes be sure to include thigh-high boots, and 5 inch cork wedges.

INSTEAD: Stop torturing your feet! It's time to be kind and get real with your shoe styling. As we age we lose that fatty cushioning we had in our youth. Look for shoe styles/brands that are wider, sole cushioned and with thicker shorter heels. TRY BRANDS LIKE: Cole Hann, Aerosoles, Nurture Shoes, etc. PAY more when it comes to your shoes because foot comfort matters so much!

Micro-minis. Tina Turner pushed the limits on this one because she had pretty hot-looking legs! However, keep in mind she was on STAGE!!! ALL etsy-bitsy skirts should be sent directly to Goodwill. End of story.

INSTEAD:  replace short skirts with straight or A-line skirts around the knee. TIP: if you have a slightly shorter skirt (a couple of inches above the knee) you could still wear it if you wear opaque tights at the same time.


Excessive Cleavage.  Some women are well endowed and well some aren't. That's just the way it is. All 'boobage' is womanly (regardless of size) and therefore is beautiful, in my humble opinion.

BUT when it comes to cleavage in public: less is more!

'These are just a few of my un-favorite things' that can trip up any beautiful woman's style! Keep it on the classic side and you'll look fabulous every day.

Also avoid hand-made hokey jewelry, goth inspired belts and necklaces with spikes, black nail polish, glitter makeup in bright colors....GOSH! I could be here all night listing the SILLY TRENDS a grown woman really should avoid.

All the best, Leslie MSP

You can find me helping women dress their best based on their body shape at MissusSmartyPants.com

Are you still wasting precious time on "body hate"

"Fully enjoy the wonder of each moment"...I saw this quote as I was scrolling through my Instagram phone app. It made me take pause because not everyone is privileged to grow old and gray. We are lucky to be alive! Live each day like it's a gift to YOU-not something to begrudge! 



STOP WAITING ON THE SIDE LINES OF LIFE! Join in and be your best person--for you. Whatever is holding you back (read: excuses) not enough money, need a better job, need to lose 20 lbs. need to declutter your closet first...WHATEVER it is-release it and start living your life today! 

STOP THE BODY HATING! IT DOESN'T WORK!

Dearest MissuSmartyPants,

About 6 months ago I purchased my personal profile (I'm a very curvy B) and learned a lot but didn't put any of it into practice until about 3 months ago.

Finally, after years of HATING my body and crying whenever I tried clothes on in a dressing room, I am able to look in the mirror and stand tall! I accept the flaws with the idea that I can improve by going to the gym, eating better, and more importantly, I can finally ACCEPT that I have assets as well.

This is HUGE for me because I am finally able to take pride in my appearance instead of just throwing on whatever was available. I’ve now lost almost 20 lbs because I’m more aware of my body and want to take care for it. Wow your style help was the turning point for me!

Thank you so much for encouraging me to love my shape. Deb


***What are you waiting for?! Time to love yourself...and dress for today!
 

Stop The Self-Sabotage!

 

"Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn't happen."

~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby

 

 

It's time to break the habit of self-sabotage! You know the feeling...when 'things are going right' it gets little scary; so you self-sabotage as a way to control the situation--but you actually end up hurting yourself. If you are prone to this sort of behavior, then use these tips below to help you hit your "RESET BUTTON" and try again:

1) Survey what you are doing

Forget justifying why you did (or didn't do) this or that; just watch yourself. The adage "Don't listen to what people say, but watch what they do" can be applied to yourself as well. Imagine you are someone else whose watching your behavior. Ask yourself: Why did I act that way? Was it the need to be in control (even if that control is related to making things fail) or was it the need for excitement through conflict, or the desire for attention or sympathy from others? Why do you do what you did?

2) Success is not black or white

Imagine what true success will be like. It may be different from what you'd been unconsciously assuming. Successful relationships, for example, don't work well all of the time; earning more money won't solve all your problems. Success isn't black or white; it's all relative. So remember that becoming successful (in whatever way) won't feel so strange when it happens because it's a natural part of being human - but the idea of success may feel strange.

3) Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater

I love this saying the most...because people most often self-sabotage because of their perfectionism! They say to themselves if it isn't perfect, then what's the point? 

You may have heard that people on strict diets trying to lose weight will more likely overeat if they feel they have veered off their diet even slightly: "What the hell, I've totally blown it now. I might as well completely binge!" People not on diets don't do this as often. So if you have a little setback or mini-failure...consciously stop yourself from throwing it all away. STOP seeing things that go 'a little wrong' as wrong and therefore ruin it completely.

STOP sabotaging your chance to look and "be" stylish! Women that are stylish are in every age group, size and height. Join MissusSmartyPants today and take advantage of this online weekly style coach. You can be more stylish...one babystep at a time!