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Showing posts with label improving your self-esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label improving your self-esteem. Show all posts
Thursday, June 8, 2017
Do we value ourselves enough? Are we listening to a negative voice in our head, or are we thinking positive thoughts?
What we think has a huge impact on us. I remember this old saying ( I don't know where it is from)..."What we think about, we bring about". How true it is!
Late last night I couldn't sleep (what else is new?)...so I read a self-help book I had on my nightstand. I grab this book and read a few pages from time to time, then put it down again. The book title doesn't really matter, but what does matters is what I got from my short reading before getting sleepy: Your reality in life is up to YOU. You make up the thoughts in your head, ultimately. Despite what anyone thinks about you (your outer appearance, your personality)...You are in charge. Despite your circumstances (those are temporary because you can change them) or anything else that has happened in your life thus far; your happiness starts in your head and it starts when you choose to let it happen.
I choose to let my light shine. I am happy. I love myself. I will stand tall, smile and enjoy all that life has to offer. No regrets, no appologies-to anyone. My life is up to me. I choose happiness and want to share my positivity with those around me. This is my truth and my reality. What's your truth and your choice?
P.S. What does this have to do with style and fashion? Everything! If you respect yourself your outer appearance will show this truth.
Some days we need a hug and a positive affirmation that we are enough--just the way we are. Sure, we've got our "imperfections" but they are part of what makes us uniquely who we are. We must therefore relax and accept ourselves first, before we can move forward or make changes in our life. Accepting yourself first allow you to share yourself enthusiastically with others. When your inner light shines through amazing things begin to happen. As a fashion stylist, I believe women are most beautiful when they truly love and believe in themselves!
"Fully enjoy the wonder of each moment"...I saw this quote as I was scrolling through my Instagram phone app. It made me take pause because not everyone is privileged to grow old and gray. We are lucky to be alive! Live each day like it's a gift to YOU-not something to begrudge!
STOP WAITING ON THE SIDE LINES OF LIFE! Join in and be your best person--for you. Whatever is holding you back (read: excuses) not enough money, need a better job, need to lose 20 lbs. need to declutter your closet first...WHATEVER it is-release it and start living your life today! STOP THE BODY HATING! IT DOESN'T WORK!
Dearest MissuSmartyPants,
About
6 months ago I purchased my personal profile (I'm a very curvy B) and
learned a lot but didn't put any of it into practice until about 3
months ago.
Finally, after years of HATING my body and crying
whenever I tried clothes on in a dressing room, I am able to look in the
mirror and stand tall! I accept the flaws with the idea that I can
improve by going to the gym, eating better, and more importantly, I can finally ACCEPT
that I have assets as well.
This is HUGE for me because I am
finally able to take pride in my appearance instead of just throwing on
whatever was available. I’ve now lost almost 20 lbs because I’m more
aware of my body and want to take care for it. Wow your style help was
the turning point for me!
Thank you so much for encouraging me to love my shape. Deb
***What are you waiting for?! Time to love yourself...and dress for today!
Stop beating yourself up and start enjoying who you are instead!
We punish ourselves for not having the “perfect” body. We waste a good part of our lives never accepting our body and hoping to change it--somehow. We have self-defeating behaviors like: obsessing over food (over or under-eating), exercising (never doing any or doing too much of it) and beating ourselves up about what we are not doing and should be doing. We don’t enjoy the process called LIFE. Let’s change our negative attitudes and start accepting our bodies and lives the way they are--or take positive steps to improve what we can improve.
Things have changed so much since I subscribed. I can't adequately explain. You made ME more important to ME.
PS. My closet is almost done. And, even though it's not quite finished yet, it has become like sacred space. I gave away everything that's too small or out of style, and have like 6 outfits now. You'd think that would be a BAD thing but it's wonderful.
I have 6 fabulous outfits that fit! I have less trouble finding nice things to wear than when I had all that crap in there! And now I have a plan for refilling with NICE things that you suggest.
Got my colors done by you, too. Best $35 bucks I ever spent! Love, Kathy
Dear SYSters,
Not a day goes by that I don’t count my blessings for the opportunity to share my love of style with all of my MSP SYSters!
It is my desire for you to look and feel your best everyday. It has become my mission (and passion) to help as many women as I can. I want each of you to feel beautiful in the skin you are in!
Find out what clothing styles flatter your shape today! It is my wish for all of you to know YOU are beautiful.
Beauty is more than skin deep...it really is. It's about having the confidence that you are pretty inside and out just the way you are. However, a bit of self-grooming does wonders to how a woman feels!
Here are eleven ways to boost your self-image...
1. Preen, primp and groom. Take care of any neglected grooming. Pamper with any or all of the following: mani, pedi, bikini wax, underarm shaving and eye brow shaping. A touch of self-care and you’ll feel pretty instantly.
2. Wear pretty under-things. Sure, no one else sees your lingerie beneath your clothes, but you’ll feel prettier knowing you are wearing them. Nude colored undergarments (how about lacey ones?) are great investments because they don't show through—you’ll surly get your money’s worth.
3. Shop for shoes. Nothing orthopedic looking. Go for style—but don’t skimp on comfort. Sassy flats with embellishments will make everything you wear look fabulous! Maybe you can hot-glue some glizty gems onto flats you already own?
4. Make it up. Put on a little makeup and you’ll positively glow! A touch of lip gloss and mascara on curled lashes--it doesn't take much to feel and look so pretty!
5. Treat yourself to a massage or a long walk. De-stress by getting a massage or going on a long walk. Yes, you’re busy but take time out for you—because you are worth it.
6. Sign up for a 5k walk/run with a friend. It’s hard to not feel more confident when you are training and thinking about making it across a finish line—bring a friend and you’ll motivate each other.
7. Focus on what your body does for you. If you are a mother, you know the amazing things your body is capable of creating—your beautiful children! Treat your body with the respect it deserves and it will treat you well too.
8. Embrace your womanly curves—because they are beautiful. You were created as a unique person. Embrace your curves, ladies! Wear flattering clothes that are not too big or too tight and you’ll always look your best.
9. Strike a pose. Perhaps a yoga pose. Try out a yoga class and see what happens. Research suggests women who do yoga have a healthier attitude towards their bodies because yoga discourages self-judgment.
10. Accept compliments with a smile. Others see your beauty—so simply thank them. Soon you’ll see your beauty too.
11. Stop, look and appreciate. Stop and take a look at your reflection---yes really look. Don’t zero in on your trouble zones—instead smile at the good parts. Remember: it’s okay to be proud of your body just the way it is.
You are beautiful and deserve to love yourself just the way you are!
Remember when you knew all the latest trends and styles—and how to wear them? If you are like most women, it was probably before you had kids. Why is that? Our beautiful children are gifts from above, but somehow in the process of becoming a parent, we miss-place our sense of style.
Now you have a budget and anything stylish seems suddenly not important. On the contrary, dressing stylish is very important to who you are! I found this out the hard way as a young mom I let "frumpy" style take over my look. I knew better, but thought that is what moms do....everything for their children. I soon realized this all or nothing attitude is not what I should be doing. I just needed to shop wisely to get my stylish look back. I put my style and budget savvy mindset together and started dressing better. As a young mom in my 20's, it feel fabulous to be a mom w/ style!
Great style doesn’t have to cost a lot. Even inexpensive accessories can really up-date your look and make you feel special. I also found shopping in second-hand stores kept my budget intact. I started by building my wardrobe with the needed basics and took it from there. The fact that I was able to sew (alter) the clothes I purchased made it an even more affordable way to shop.
Taking care of our appearance maintains our sense of identity (as a woman, not just a mom) and makes us feel more confident in general. An improved self-esteem makes us a better mother, wife, employee, etc. Why wouldn't we want to do everything we can to be our best?
We are busy! Our daily lives are often like a juggling act—trying to keep all the balls in the air without dropping any. This is what busy moms do. There is no doubt about it, when you are a mom--life is busy. Often practicality makes us feel we must give up on style. When babies spit up on you, lots of errands to run, or you are staying at home—you think why bother? No real need for makeup or dressing well and before you know--practical and frumpy has taken over your life and looks!
Moms do NOT have to wear un-styled clothes to be comfortable. You can have style without breaking the bank. It is more about changing your attitude and making it happen. That’s where MissusSmartyPants.com comes in with my weekly style help! I have done most of the work for you--I give you mom-chic style ideas and make it easy! With my weekly shopping guides, style advice and encouragement, you'll be the best you can be...even with your busy schedule!
Women have a way of giving so much that there is nothing left for them. You don’t have to be a martyr in order to be a good mother. No need to lose your sense of style or identity either. You can do both—have style and be a great mom!
In fact, being the mom that dresses nice and cares about her appearance is actually the one that is teaching her children an important lesson. You are telling them how an adult woman, mother and wife should take care of herself. Set the example for your children by showing them how you love yourself! You are worth it! FlyLady at FlyLady.net tells us to take time and pamper. Heed her wise advice and care for yourself.
Take time for style! Add a splash of makeup, a touch of accessories and wear styles are right for your body type—your attitude will be more positive. You will feel like you are no longer blending into the background—you will find that you get noticed and love how you feel. You are a woman of importance after all! You are—just ask your family! Moms, take time for you, take time for style!
